This post is in addition to our Feature in the Post Newspaper, where we gave our views on “Sharing our bed with baby”.
How did we begin Co-Sleeping?
When we were pregnant, it was a no-brainer we would have baby in our room. So we set up her little corner with her Cot and Compactum. I painted her name on wooden letters and mounted them on the wall. That was her little corner, where we could watch her through the night. I also bought a baby monitor so we could make sure she was safe in her crib. Well, so what really did happen when we brought baby home was completely different.She was so tiny, and it was freezing in the middle of winter, there was absolutely no way we could leave her alone in the cot. We were terrified about baby getting suffocated or not breathing at night etc.
I will admit in the early days, we were scared we would roll over her, so we placed her on a baby wedge which is propped higher on the bed. It was not until she was around 3 months that we began cuddling close together, she was bigger and we were pretty comfortable we would not roll over her by then. To be honest you will have days when you are so uncomfortable, and baby just does not want to sleep. We have rearranged our room so many times, even removing the legs of our bed. At one point we removed the base of our bed completely and we slept on the floor, but that’s another story altogether. The point is, you will find a way to make a plan.
If you have a night feeder like mine, you will know how often baby wakes up at night to feed. This is tiring and bothersome for a mom, who needs to also get some shut-eye. It’s so much easier to just feed baby while lying down, sometimes I don’t even wake up, it’s pretty much a self-service thing at this point. And other times if she wants extra love and attention, then I prop on me, and she feeds that way. Super easy and convenient for baby and I.
Does this affect my Marriage?
No, not at all. To be honest the only thing I miss is cuddling next to my husband, but we all cuddle together now so that’s fine. In terms of sex, and intimacy, we still have that part of our relationship. We just leave our room, when she’s asleep, we have a spare bedroom so that’s where we have our alone time. When baby’s asleep we have dinner, chat about our day and spend time together. So even though our life has changed, it’s changed for the better, and we recognize how temporal this time really is. If anything, it has strengthened our marriage. My husband always tells me, this is time he is willing to sacrifice for me and the baby.
Remember this is just my view-point, and our family dynamic. My husband and I both agree this is the way we want to raise our baby and we are both comfortable with co-sleeping. Communication with your partner is key, to ensuring you are both on the same page and happy with the arrangement.
We have come to the sobering thought that our baby and future babies won’t be this young forever. We plan on savouring the time they are still at home with us, and happy to be cuddling with their mom and dad. There will come a time, when they will be all grown, and it will just be my husband and I alone, sitting on our porch drinking tea, and talking about how much we miss our children!
What are the benefits of co-sleeping?
Research studies show babies are at a lower risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), when they sleep in the same room or bed as parents.
It improves the sleep time for both mom and baby, there is no need to get up from your bed and go to baby to feed and comfort her.
Breastfeeding through the night is easier. The sleep pattern of both mother and baby syncs and enables for comfortable nursing, so no engorged breasts!
It’s just the best thing to wake up next to a smiling and beautiful baby. My hubby and I live for this every morning!
Those adorable baby feet against your belly and that glorious baby smell never gets old.
You will be able to monitor the baby through the night during illness.
Helps working mothers spend more time with their babies while sleeping.
Not only mothers, but also fathers enjoy co-sleeping as a means of bonding with their little ones.
It normalizes baby’s temperature, as they cannot regulate their own body temperature.
How to do co-sleeping safely
How to do Co-Sleeping safely?
Ensure the space on the bed and around is secure and safe.
Baby should sleep on their backs as this reduces SID’s.
Do not smoke and drink alcohol.
If you are unwell, and take medication that makes you drowsy, use something to separate baby like a sleeping pod, or wedge to avoid rolling over baby.
To avoid baby overheating, keep the temperature in room cool. Leave baby’s head uncovered.
To avoid suffocation, all 3 of you can use separate blankets or covers.
Buy a bigger bed. Well, that is self-explanatory.
Thank you for reading, I hope this enlightens you on why we chose this route. No matter what method you choose,remember every family is different. Do what feels right for your family!